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"The prose is restrained but lyrical throughout. Raw and unflinching, this dark coming-of-age story impresses at every turn."
“Profound and gloriously provocative, this book—a perfect follow-up to her equally visceral previous memoir, Abandon Me—transforms the wounds and scars of lived female experience into an occasion for self-understanding that is both honest and lyrical. Consistently illuminating, unabashedly ferocious writing.”
—Kirkus Reviews, starred review
“Intellectual and erotic, engaging and empowering, Girlhood lays bare the process of unlearning the most deeply ingrained lesson of female adolescence—that we ourselves are not masters of our own domain—and offers us exquisite, ferocious language for embracing self-pleasure and self-love.”
—Oprah Magazine, “32 LGBTQ Books That Will Change the Literary Landscape in 2021”
“Melissa Febos is a precise, visceral chronicler of what it means to be a woman in the world…[Girlhood] feels like a rescue mission of sorts for so many women, who have felt lost in a world that doesn't prioritize them. It is fierce and lyrical, furious and tender; a vital read for anyone figuring out who they really are, and have always been.” —Refinery 29
“Melissa Febos’ latest book is a memoir, but it also serves as a history lesson of sorts. In Girlhood she picks at the ways women are taught to be “female” — and what it means to remove oneself from such expectations. Febos’ lyrical, meditative writing makes it all the easier to ponder her critical questions and explorations.”
—San Francisco Chronicle, Ten Books to Pick Up for a Better 2021
“Febos brings lyric and merciless scrutiny to how women are conditioned to accept misogyny as their due…By drawing upon cultural materials for her kaleidoscopic investigation, [she] does for girlhood what Maggie Nelson did for pregnancy in The Argonauts.”
“How do you heal from the pain of growing up? This question, refracted through a feminist lens, lies at the heart of Melissa Febos’s essay collection, Girlhood. With psychological clarity and emotional precision, Febos revisits the past to rewrite the future.”
A gripping set of stories about the forces that shape girls and the adults they become. A wise and brilliant guide to transforming the self and our society.
In her powerful new book, critically acclaimed author Melissa Febos examines the narratives women are told about what it means to be female and what it takes to free oneself from them.
When her body began to change at eleven years old, Febos understood immediately that her meaning to other people had changed with it. By her teens, she defined herself based on these perceptions and by the romantic relationships she threw herself into headlong. Over time, Febos increasingly questioned the stories she’d been told about herself and the habits and defenses she’d developed over years of trying to meet others’ expectations. The values she and so many other women had learned in girlhood did not prioritize their personal safety, happiness, or freedom, and she set out to reframe those values and beliefs.
Blending investigative reporting, memoir, and scholarship, Febos charts how she and others like her have reimagined relationships and made room for the anger, grief, power, and pleasure women have long been taught to deny.
Written with Febos’ characteristic precision, lyricism, and insight, Girlhood is a philosophical treatise, an anthem for women, and a searing study of the transitions into and away from girlhood, toward a chosen self.
Early Praise for GIRLHOOD
“In this book, Febos proves herself to be one of the great documenters of the terrible and exquisite depths of girlhood. Here, that terrible and beautiful aeon is dissected, sung over, explored like ancient ruins. These essays are moss and iron—hard and beautiful—and struck through with Febos’ signature brilliance and power and grace. An essential, heartbreaking project."
—Carmen Maria Machado, author of Her Body and Other Parties and In the Dreamhouse
“Melissa Febos is part poet, part theorist, and all writer. In this lyrical, searching, profound, and personal collection, Febos examines childhood, femaleness, and love in its many forms with a sensuous ferocity that is all her own.”
—Ariel Levy, author of The Rules Do Not Apply
“Melissa Febos just revived me in the most spectacular way. Girlhood blazes through the stories we've been told with a dazzling fury and a brilliant beauty. Whatever we are or were, this is a map to a new becoming. Between the intellect and the body a third term emerges, dissolving binaries and reinventing the space of erotic power and creativity. A fuck-all guide to resilience and reclamation, a breathtaking reimagination of who we might be in spite of what we've been told. Girlhood will bring you back to life.”
—Lidia Yuknavitch, author of Chronology of Water and The Book of Joan
“Girlhood is an exquisite collection. In lapidary, lucid prose, Melissa Febos dissects the traumas, terrors, and pleasures of the fraught passage from girl to woman. Febos’s insight is devastating, the examinations of her world – from the female body, queerness, consent, slut-shaming, and intimacy – are rigorous and compassionate. This is a book for mothers, daughters, and our deepest selves, a true light in the dark.”
—Stephanie Danler, author of Sweetbitter and Stray
"Melissa Febos's GIRLHOOD is a gorgeously written, perfectly calibrated investigation into the traps, paths, and challenges of being female in this world. It's a stunner of a book."
—Jami Attenberg, author of All This Could Be Yours
“American patriarchy teaches so many of us to hate our own bodies and stifle our own desires—to make ourselves smaller in every way. GIRLHOOD is a smart, fierce, gloriously sensual critique of these lessons by a writer who has fought hard to unlearn them. Thank you, Melissa Febos, for charting this magnificent route of queer feminist resistance!”
—Leni Zumas, author of Red Clocks
“I could not stop reading Melissa Febos’s lucid and timely GIRLHOOD, which lays bare the invisible scars of coming-of-age alongside a history of a body under-estimated. In precise and lyrical prose, she connects her personal story to those of other women who have faced the incremental violences of patriarchy. Febos’ wit and sincerity push aside tropes of purity to make room for stories of real power and desire. The great surprise of the book is how masterfully she reinvents the path to womanhood, a philosopher’s eye turned protectively towards the tenderest parts of the writer’s former self.”
—Wendy S. Walters, author of Multiply/Divide
“Reading Girlhood felt like having a spell whispered into my ear. You carve yourself, Melissa Febos writes, and the phrase becomes command, elegy, incantation. In these pages she conjures not only the past, but an allegory of experience at once universal and exquisitely personal. Intimate, urgent, and stunningly beautiful, this is a book that will be passed from hand to hand, from heart to heart.”
—Alex Marzano-Lesnevich, author The Fact of A Body
“At once intimate and didactic, lyric and wise, Girlhood is a must-read hybrid text for women looking to define themselves from the inside. This book is an exorcism of social messaging and external gazes, and Febos is a warm and erudite exorcist.”
—Melissa Broder, author of So Sad Today and The Pisces